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Meditate On This!

Bert Reynolds
For our One Day without Anger, I want to offer a few challenges.
 
Ask some simple questions for self-reflection. Why am I angry? Is my anger misplaced? Is my anger proportional to the perceived injury or wrong? Is this a sign of an unresolved issue that needs to be addressed? How did I contribute (or how am I contributing) to the problem?
 
Learn your triggers and try to plan accordingly. Sometimes we are blind to times and triggers of foul moods and quick tempers. Try to ascertain the occasions when your temper is short, when your emotions will more likely be on edge, and try to prepare. Pray beforehand. Plot your approach. Consider limiting exposure to those things, even people, that always set you off.  
 
Learn the proper time to engage and take a time out when needed. When we are angry, tired, stressed, the kids are around, we are distracted, we only have a few minutes, the meeting has already run long, it may not be the best time for a productive conversation. Plan for important, potentially difficult conversations to take place during a time and at a place that has a better chance for a good outcome. What's more, when you are in an important conversation but anger is about to boil over, take a moment to catch your breath. If you need to, simply admit, "I need a time out. I need to take a moment to regroup before we talk about this."
 
Try to replace anger with that which is constructive and Christ-like. It's not that we won't occasionally have moments of anger, but they won't drive us or overcome us when we are instead consciously, continually choosing the way of Christ, the way of love, the way of compassion, the way of forgiveness, the way of peace. It's much harder to be overcome with anger when we are overflowing with the ways of Jesus.

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